23rd Sunday in Ordinary Time [C]

September 8, 2019

Luke 14:25-33

Today we listen to one of Jesus’ hard sayings. If we want to follow Jesus, we need to hate our fathers, mothers, our other siblings, and even our own lives; otherwise we are not worthy of Him [Luk 14:25]. Is Jesus serious? Jesus must be kidding around. NO, he means what he says. So, how are we going to understand this hard saying? Jesus teaches love, mercy, and compassion, and the only thing He hates is a sin. Does Jesus change his mind and now turn to be the promoter of hatred? If we can hate our family, we now hate practically everyone. Is this what Jesus intending to say?

To answer this hard question, we need to comprehend also the broader context. Jesus is journeying towards Jerusalem, and He knows well what awaits Him in this city: crucifixion and death. There are crowds following Jesus because Jesus is a popular public figure. Many want to be healed, others wish to see Jesus’s miracles, and the rest just like to listen to His authoritative teachings. This is the crowd mentality: following something or someone because of our selfish interest. This is not true discipleship. This is entertainment.

Jesus understands this too well, and He needs to rebuke them that following Him is not entertainment. He makes them decide whether to remain as a crowd or to become disciples, to leave or to walk in His way of the cross. Yet, this kind of decision is only possible when we are not attached to things and persons we hold dear. We cannot carry our cross unless we are ready to give up our lives.

The question remains, though, is Jesus promoting hatred? One of Jesus’ favorite style in preaching is hyperbole, or to exaggerate to emphasize a point. For example, Jesus once says, “And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away [Matt. 18:9]” Of course, Jesus does not literally demand us to plug our eyes out, but He strongly underlines the severe consequences of sin. Thus, when Jesus speaks that we need to “hate” our parents and our lives, Jesus does not mean to promote hatred and violence. Jesus powerfully reminds the people that unless they love Jesus above all, we are not worthy to be His followers.

This has tremendous implications in our lives. Yes, we need to love our family, but we should love Jesus first, or we should love our parents in Jesus. It is just natural to cling to life, but this life only has true meaning when it is offered to Jesus. In marriage, the couple should love each other, but unless they love Jesus first, the marriage will simply be a social contract. It is the duty of the husband to lead his wife to love Jesus and the wife to follow Jesus together with her husband. It is also the primary duty of parents to teach their children to love God and His Law.

Jesus surely loves His mother, Mary and respect his foster father, Joseph, but it is clear to Jesus that His love for them is rooted and directed to His Father in heaven. It is true discipleship, that unless we hate our lives and everything else, we are not worthy of Him.

Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP